Home is Where....Well I'm not Sure

Tom and I have been married for 4.5 years and have moved 3 times in that time to 3 different states. It gets really confusing to decide where you are from and where you want to live when you are moving around all the time.
Every time we visit Arkansas we are drawn back there. We left in a hurry after we got married looking for new job and school opportunities. We realized quickly we did not like it there too much and wanted to eventually return to Arkansas.
Then Tom got a job in St. Louis and we moved here. We do both love living here but every time we visit Arkansas we want to move back there. We have the HUGE problem of never being able to find jobs in Arkansas.
We had so many good times when we lived there but many bad ones too. We adore our friends but have great friends here too. It is so hard to decide where we will eventually go or what will happen.
We do always feel a draw to go back there no matter how much we like the other places we live. We miss the Lake, our Friends, and Family and of course the Razorbacks! We will just have to wait and see.